Creating a Nightly Self-Care Routine with Mompreneur, Lila McDermid, of Caring Coconut

May 21, 2021 | Motherhood, Self-Care

This blog post will teach you how to create a nightly self care routine to help you relax and rejuvenate. It is written by Lila McDermid, owner and curator of Caring Coconut. She is a wife, mama, herbologist, skin care curator and lover of Jesus. She lives in Spokane Valley, Washington with her husband and three beautiful daughters. Year round they have an online store and seasonally can be found at local markets. She is passionate about creating self care products for moms and families using pure, natural ingredients that bring healing to the body.

Photo credit: Alicia Hauff

Here at Caring Coconut, our goal is to help you create your own personal happy space right at home. We want you to make it a habit to visit that space regularly, that way it’s less of a leap when you need it the most! We’ve found the best way to achieve that goal is by keeping it simple and curating a collection of self-care items for you to use in your daily bath or shower routine. You are very busy, maybe even stressed and that is even more reason to start your plan today. Go through these steps for building your new self-care routine.

Plan a Time Frame – Depending on what time your spouse gets home from work or when your children fall asleep this will vary person to person. I am personally a big fan of putting a relaxing end to a long days work so I recommend a nightly bath. Talk to your spouse about taking over the bedtime responsibilities of the children. It can be difficult to ask your spouse for help and support, but you can’t simply assume that your partner will notice when you are in distress. Sometimes, you have to ask for help. You must be willing to step aside and receive support when you are exhausted from work or family responsibilities. It’s not just during the really stressful times either. 

Continue to seek help even when things are going well, practicing self-care on regular basis is important for your mental health and for the health of your relationships as well.

Photo credit: Alicia Hauff

Setting the Stage – Power down all electronics and slip into that hot water!  When a tense body enters the hot water it increases the body’s temperature and relaxes the muscles. Relaxing the muscles not only soothes us physically, but also mentally, and many of us need that peace of mind at the end of the day. By making sure to turn off all screens it will help reset and refocus our appreciation and gratitude for the lives we have been given. Meditating on these positive thoughts before bedtime not only improves your current mood better preparing you for sleep, it also impacts how cheerful and alert you are the next day as well. Now that’s a gift that keeps on giving!

Treat Yourself – What can adding handcrafted skin care items by Caring Coconut do to enhance your new self-care routine?  Whether it’s a delightful new bar of your favorite smelling artisan soap, a face mask, milk & oatmeal bath, or our dreamweaver lotion just make sure you start with at least one product that makes you feel good. Inhaling your favorite scent stimulates your limbic system, which controls the emotions, the heart rate, blood pressure, breathing, memory, and hormone balance. Conditions such as chronic fatigue syndrome, anxiety, baby blues or postpartum depression can all be assisted by bathing with our products. Aromatherapy is proven to increase levels of serotonin, which is the chemical produced by the brain associated with happiness and well being. This is only a short list of the amazing benefits can be achieved just by adding a few luxurious self-care items to your daily regimen. Although they may all seem like small things on their own, practicing this new daily habit can add up to big change over time.

Photo credit: Alicia Hauff

Don’t Give Up – No matter how well we may have structured our plans, it’s almost inevitable that we sometimes lose motivation, a child gets sick, your spouse works late, you get too busy, or simply forget about it. That’s ok just start back as soon as possible. Want accountability? Share your plan with other people you interact with on social and tag us @caringcoconut.

It doesn’t have to be perfect, to start. You can do this. You need to do this. You deserve to do this and we’re cheering for you!

Happy Bathing!

Now for a behind the scenes look at motherhood for Lila

What are some unexpected things you experienced once you became a mom?

How much I would need other women. Becoming a mom made me crave a tribe. There’s a reason the proverb “it takes a village” is so popular. Transitioning into this stage of my life I deeply craved connection with other mothers for their empathy, understanding, and support.   

What are a few things you struggle with as a mom or woman?

Social media. Truly being in the moment, not living in the past or worrying about the future.

What is one thing you are proud of as a mom?

When my girls talk about Jesus. When I can tell they feel secure in themselves. That my job allows me to be able to model both homemaking and work ethic skills.  

Tell us one embarrassing or bad mom moment.

My most embarrassing moment was pulling a pair of (clean) underwear out of my pant leg while attending a mom’s group at my church. I was so mortified, but honestly, I think the great laugh we all got out of it made it worth it in the end.  

If you could give one piece of advice to a mom in a stage you have already been through what would it be?

Find your tribe, love them hard. Take the first step to talk to someone, put in the work of awkward mom dating (yes you can go onto a date even while you are wearing leggings and a mom bun!), keep in touch often, make getting together a priority.  Friends are a priceless gift.

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